I hereby declare the honeymoon OVER! It clocked in at approximately 5.5 weeks. Based on what we have read and our experience, it can last any time from a week or two to up to a year. Research says that sibling groups tend to have shorter honeymoons and/or less defined honeymoons than single children. Charlie’s response to me declaring the honeymoon over was: “Don’t! It might be premature!” We are hoping this is not going to get significantly worse. We are prepared for it to get a whole lot worse.
To muster up a little positivity, I do know that the end of the honeymoon is the true beginning of our family. They feel safe enough with us and comfortable enough to not feel the need to “put on a show.” Until we get through these rough patches, our relationship will not be authentic or genuine. They need to know that we are in this regardless of their behavior. Charlie told a “A” this week: “You are our DAUGHTER. Nothing you can do will change that, ever.” So…this post-honeymoon phase has a really important purpose.
We did the whole school supply shopping thing yesterday…which, turns out, was going to be a lot more fun in my head! We then attempted our first official eating out experience at Applebees. (Yikes, is all I will say about that for now).
In the midst of the chaos today (the irony of the name I gave this blog pre-placement is not lost on me), we packed up coolers, wrestled kids into swimming suits, and threw them into the boat for a fun day. WE ARE GOING TO HAVE A FUN DAY, DAMN IT! Oddly enough, it did turn out to be a fun day! We swam a ton…the kids love jumping off and doing crazy “tricks” off the edge of the boat. It’s awesome to see how much more they trust us with this from the beginning of the summer. It was really windy today, so the boat very quickly floated away after jumping in. A month ago they would have rather drowned than ask us for help…but we were giving them piggy back rides back to the boat per their request a ton today. Awesome. (And exhausting!)
We are soaking up the last few days of the summer that will go down in history, for all of us.